We already know guys don't like talking about their feelings, but why is it that once your dating your never really sure if your his girlfriend or not? You'd hate to be "that girl" and ask the big ugly question " what are we".. but if you don't and surely they won't how will you ever know?
Girls have battled with this problem since the 60's when asking to go steady was like asking someone to prom. So to shed some much needed light into the cluttered and complicated minds of men, I consulted with a group of guys from all walks of life. Some are single and some are not, some are happily single and some are not, some are happily committed and some are not...a well-rounded array of perspectives.. only the best for my reader.
In
a relationship, when is it acceptable for a guy or a girl to bring up the
“what are we” conversation?
a)
After 2 dates
b)
after you sleep with them more than once
c)
after a month of talking and dating
d)
anytime after 4 months
e) other ( fill in your own response here)
Results:
3/6 picked C-after a month of talking and dating
2/6 picked E-other; let the natural progression of a relationship
take place
other; Depends
on circumstances
Why do guys hate the ‘title’ conversation so
much?
Answer: Once there is a
'title', we then need to refer to you by that title, therefore limiting our
ability to hook up with other girls. If we never have that conversation,
we can claim that we didn't know it would be an issue that we're seeing other
people. Plausible deniability.
Answer: Guys will never be the first to
bring this up. Plus, a guy will continue to see (or try) to see other people
until they are cutoff. Guys need negative incentives, girls love positive
reinforcement. Girl gets a haircut, you better notice.
I don't ask girls if my biceps look awesome after going to the gym.
Answer: We are guys, we are
chemically imbalanced to enjoy the questions because that discussion can result
in drama and only G*y guys like drama.
Answer: First off guys don’t want a title
because they don’t want the expectations that also come with a title.
If they are going on dates and having fun with a girl, they want that to keep
up without having to do the other stuff. The second there is a title involved
there is a whole different stigma of what is expected.
After a month or two of
dating, what signs do men give off that should tell a woman, "were over
sleeping with you and now want to walk away”?
a) You
don’t call and text as often
b) You
have two days off in a row and you don’t talk to her at all
c) The
last time you hung out with her you didn’t make plans to see her next (even if
your job schedule is different or busy)
d) Other
Results:
3/ 6 picked A- You
don’t call and text as often
2/6
picked D-Other; All of the above
Other; we'll
probably just stop calling and texting all together.If you call and ask
why, we'll make up some excuse to avoid having to tell the truth.
Stay Tuned for Part 2~
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