The Title Game: Are You His Girlfriend or Not?

We already know guys don't like talking about their feelings, but why is it that once your dating  your never really sure if your his girlfriend or not? You'd hate to be "that girl" and ask the big ugly question " what are we".. but if you don't and surely they won't how will you ever know?


Girls have battled with this problem since the 60's when asking to go steady was like asking someone to prom. So to shed some much needed light into the cluttered and complicated minds of men, I consulted with a group of guys from all walks of life. Some are single and some are not, some are happily single and some are not, some are happily committed and some are not...a well-rounded array of perspectives.. only the best for my reader.

In a relationship, when is it acceptable for a guy or a girl to bring up the  “what are we” conversation?

a)      After 2 dates

b)      after you sleep with them more than once

c)       after a month of talking and dating

d)      anytime after 4 months

                  e)      other ( fill in your own response here)

 Results: 

3/6 picked C-after a month of talking and dating

2/6 picked E-other; let the natural progression of a relationship take place

other; Depends on circumstances

Why do guys hate the ‘title’ conversation so much?

Answer: Once there is a 'title', we then need to refer to you by that title, therefore limiting our ability to hook up with other girls.  If we never have that conversation, we can claim that we didn't know it would be an issue that we're seeing other people.  Plausible deniability.

Answer: Guys will never be the first to bring this up. Plus, a guy will continue to see (or try) to see other people until they are cutoff. Guys need negative incentives, girls love positive reinforcement.  Girl gets a haircut, you better notice. I don't ask girls if my biceps look awesome after going to the gym.

Answer: We are guys, we are chemically imbalanced to enjoy the questions because that discussion can result in drama and only G*y guys like drama.

Answer: First off guys don’t want a title because they don’t want the expectations that also come with a title. If they are going on dates and having fun with a girl, they want that to keep up without having to do the other stuff. The second there is a title involved there is a whole different stigma of what is expected.

After a month or two of dating, what signs do men give off that should tell a woman, "were over sleeping with you and now want to walk away”?

a)      You don’t call and text as often

b)      You have two days off in a row and you don’t talk to her at all

c)       The last time you hung out with her you didn’t make plans to see her next (even if your job schedule is different or busy)

d)      Other 

Results: 

3/ 6 picked A- You don’t call and text as often

2/6 picked D-Other; All of the above

Other; we'll probably just stop calling and texting all together.If you call and ask why, we'll make up some excuse to avoid having to tell the truth.

Stay Tuned for Part 2~ 

Guest Blogger: Dating Advice from a Regular Guy

There is only so much dating advice you can get from your girlfriends and reality TV.


You may even find yourself asking so many questions to so many different people that you forget what your own opinion actually is.


But let's face it, no one has the perfect answer to any dating dilemma. 


It's Monday, the weekend is over and maybe you meet a new guy over this past weekend and your already making yourself crazy over-analyzing his every move since you've meet or maybe you didn't meet anyone new this weekend and just need some some run-of-the-mill dating lessons and recommendations from a new source.


So here are a few helpful tips to take into consideration from an anonymous regular and overly honest guy who doesn't know you or the exact details of your dating life. He is a 28-year old guest blogger who has been both happily single and in a committed relationship. 

The one thing girls need to remember if they want to find/get a boyfriend
The first thing is you don’t “find” or “get” a boyfriend because when you are looking for a boyfriend guys can sense that and there is absolutely nothing worse than a desperate girl. I believe the number one thing girls need to remember is to have confidence in yourself, confidence to go up to a guy and start the conversation. People talk about the “game” and the right amount of days to call someone. I am sorry but this is not the 1920’s, if you want something go out and get it. Don’t wait for the guy to be the catalyst of a budding relationship because chances are unless you are a ten we are not going to wait around.

Best way or place to meet a guy with boyfriend potential
If there was a specific place to meet a guy with bf potential that place would be swarming with girls, unfortunately that place doesn't exist. What you need to do / be is open to new ideas, new places and new people. Take yourself out of your comfort zone i.e( if you got to one bar all the time try a new bar) it could be as simple as that. I think the best way to meet a potential bf would be through friends. Be open to meeting other people and don’t disregard new people if they don’t fit your groups mold… you are not as cool as you think you are. 


Keys to a happy relationship that dating experts & self-help books don’t tell you
If they seem shady, they are shady.. good-bye! Don’t over communicate, if you talk through email all day you don’t need to have a hour long chat that night it will become a chore and how many people like chores?!?! Lastly with anything in life be yourself, you cant change who you are and if you need to change yourself to be with a guy… hes not worth it .

For More Dating Advice from an older perspective check out the video post from 41-year old Hottie and Mad Men star, Jon Hamm:

Your Friends Don't like your Boyfriend? Would you Dump him over it?

Everyone has some similar or shared interest with their friends or they wouldn't be friends right?
Whether it's liking the same activities, genre of books and movies or sharing the same sense of humor, in someway or another you friends mirror some small part of you.


But what about when it comes to men. Obviously  if your constantly eyeing for the same guy at the bar this will  eventually cause a riff between friends, but on the other side, what if you don't like the guy your friend is seeing, what happens then?


Datewithamate.com, a dating website that sets up pairs of friends on double dates with other pairs of friends conducted a study to find out just how important a friend's approval is when a new boyfriend is introduced to your circle of friends.


According to the study, 42% said they would need their friends approval when they started dating a new person.. furthermore 12% said they would even end a relationship if their friends didn't approve ( a Mother's Day tie-in: just 8% said they would end it if their mom didn't approve). 


Luke Pomaro, founder of datewithamate.com said the study was to help them get to know their target market better and added, "I appreciate the importance of a friend’s approval, however I don’t believe it is that important that if a friend doesn't approve the relationship should be ended. The grounds of a healthy relationship are ultimately down to the two people directly involved in it and as long as they are happy together that should be all that matters."


Although I think we'd all like to say we would end a relationship if our friends didn't like our boyfriend how many times have you heard stories of a break-up followed by a friend saying ' I never really liked him anyways" or " I don't know what you saw in him, I always thought you could do so much better"...


You won't win the friend of the year award for dumping your dude just because your friends don't see the same charm and lovable person you see. BUT if your friends are trying to warn you about your guys red flags that you are too love struck and blind to see you should appreciate and consider their opinion and maybe approach your man about certain concerns you've suddenly become aware of. 

                         Ke$ha Singing about her Best Friends Boyfriend

Would You Break Up with your Boyfriend if He Did This?

This Guy may have scared the bejusus out of his girlfriend but his clever prank caught on tape made him ( and kinda her) and instant youtube star. The Boyfriend describes his practical joke here:

"I got off of work early and snuck into my girlfriends apartment with a spare key. I waited for her to get off of work and I dressed up with a face mask and a trench coat on acting as if I was robbing the place. I was holding their 32" TV, a duffle bag full of their stuff, and their laptop in my hand. When I heard the door open then close, I ran out to surprise them.... Poor girl was crying haha"

Well I guess she can't be too mad, he did land them both on Good Morning America this morning!

But will she get him back? How would you repay your jokester of a boyfriend?

She got Punk'd: