Consumer Alert! Is Your Bike Ruining Your Sex Life?

I always knew there was a reason why I hated spin class.


A new study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that riding a bike can in fact affect how much female riders enjoy sex.


The culprit of this nasty news is the heinous handlebar! 


The study found that setting your handlebar lower than the seat increases pressure and decreases sensation in the genital area. - Ouch.


The more pressure there is to a woman's genitals the more likely you are to get nerve damage down there-hence reducing your ability to feel any good vibrations ( in your female friend area).


Researcher Marsha K. Guess said in a release about the study Monday, " ""Chronic insult to the genital nerves from increased saddle pressures could potentially result in sexual dysfunction."


So what do you do if you just bought a new class package at SoulCycle?!


Experts say all you need to do is make sure you re-position your handlebars higher so your sitting more upright which puts more pressure on your your sit bones instead of your ever-important genital tissues.


And a word to those male readers out there- past research has also shown that cycling for men could cause erectile dysfunction- Cycle with Caution. 

People say they Love their iPhones more than Sex?!

Every time you look around you see someone with an iphone. Whether they're texting, talking, googling or playing numerous dumb games, you can't escape Americas love for iPhones-( I even walked by a homeless guy the other day and I swear he was on one too). I personally don't own an iphone ( I started with a driod), but it seems people are taking their love for the shiny electronic a bit too far.

According to a survey released by Gazelle.com, a high-end consumer electronic trade-in website, 65% of iphoners can't live without their precious device. In the techno-crazed era we live in, this statistic didn't surprise me, what surprised me was that nearly 15% of respondents said they'd rather give up sex than go a weekend without their iPhone.

Perhaps I shouldn't be so surprised by that since more than 25% said they "almost always" use their iPhones in social settings like during dinner or at a party- No wonder why iPhoners aren't getting lucky they're too busy doting over their phones!

The survey goes on to say that 4% of respondents said they've even used their iPhones while having sex. (This part of the report I am still skeptical on- how is that even possible.. either your unbelievably desperate and don't mind your partner texting while your doing the deed or.. or I don't know, maybe the tech obsessive iphoners are paring up and texting each other during sex... i.e  "that's the spot :)"... "say my name : p".

The iPhone turns 5 on June 29th.. If this is how much our society is addicted to the flashy apple symbol now, what can we expect to happen in the next 5 years?

What Really Turns You on...

When you think of what gets you in the mood to have sex do you think of soft sounds from Marvin Gaye and a bedroom covered with candles and rose petals? Or maybe a naughty text message?

Sure it may not sound as romantic but according to a survey by Fitness Magazine and Yahoo! Shine 22% of men and women between the ages of 18-34 say it is.

20% say a sexy movie can turn them on the most.

And for women its those simple three little words that does the trick... 44% say "I love you" gets them in the mood.

Why Women Don't like Sex as much with a Hook-up

Ahh College hookups.. A time to frolic from dorm room to dorm room without a care in the world. A place where you know you won't be caught and embarrassed in front of your parents or gossiped about as much as you would in the close quarters of high school hallways. 


For some incoming freshmen hookups might be their first set of sexual encounters.They don't say college is liberating for nothing. 


But one new study finds that such hookups don't actually make for great sexual experiences.


The Study "Accounting for Women's orgasm and sexual enjoyment in college hookups and relationships" published by the American Sociological Review wanted to explain why relationship sex is better for women (in terms of producing more orgasms and sexual pleasure). 


After reviewing  a large online survey of undergraduates at U.S colleges and Universities as well as in-depth  interviews they found that women have orgasms more often in relationships than in hookups. The reason behind it? 


The study contributes the better big O's from four things: 1- technically competent genital stimulation ( I mean if you don't know how to shift gears you shouldn't be driving a stick). 
2- partner-specific learning ( that's what happens when you don't know the name of the guy your hooking up with, you can't call out his name with proper directions and commands). 
3- commitment ( you'll most likely relax and enjoy yourself more knowing he won't hightail it out the door before you wake up in the morning). 
4- gender equality (aka sexual equality,  basically having some dignity and knowing you have the right to feel just as much sexual pleasure as your partner does).


And then they get into some unnerving double standards saying: 


"both men and women question women’s (but not men’s) entitlement to pleasure in hookups but believe strongly in women’s (as well as men’s) entitlement to pleasure in relationships"


Essentially saying that women don't think they have the right to enjoy themselves in a casual hookup BUT it's ok for men to enjoy themselves. This isn't breaking news folks, this goes back to the unspoken understanding that if a woman fools around with a guy shes not in a relationship with she's called a slut, but if a guy hooks-up with a girl he's not dating he's a hotshot and a hero.


Take the study for what it is but now you are scientifically informed that random hook-ups won't be as enjoyable for you as hooking up with your boyfriend or husband.. so maybe.. if you can (and I for one won't judge you if you can't) put the hookups on hold. 

Here is a funny video from College Humor on the aftermath of a hook up

Sharing on Facebook is as Good as Sex? What?!

If your not someone who updates their status on Facebook or twitter every few minutes, I'm sure you know someone who does. 


You know the types- posting what they just ate for breakfast, what the traffic looks like on their evening commute, a gift they just bought themselves or a vacation they just booked ( that's a year away). You know, people who like to over share. 


But what gets people off so much by over sharing?


Some researchers from Harvard University set out to answer this enigma. They looked at brain imaging scans to show how our brains react to sharing information about ourselves with others.


Now what they came up with will surprise and startle you.


They found that our brain actually responds to sharing information about ourselves in the same way it responds to the pleasure triggers we get from sex!


Shocking, I know. 


I mean listen, I'am all for the growing social world but for those 300 people that they conducted the study from.. word of advice.. get a life and get laid for God's sake! 


In another part their research they worked on what they called the 'Penny for your Thoughts' study to find out if people would pay money to share information about themselves with other people. According to their data study subjects were willing to go without 17-25% of their potential earnings if they could tell information about themselves to others.


People make a good living listening to other people share their thoughts, its called therapy, just get yourself a psychologist.


Diana Tamir, the lead author of the study says, "everybody can find some kind of value reward in having an audience or a sympathetic ear, regardless whether you do that behavior a lot or a little. It provides you with some sort of reward."


No wonder why Mark Zuckerberg  is so filthy rich, he single-handedly gave the same pleasure feeling you get with sex to 794 million users ( said to reach 1 billion in August).

Exclusive Interview/ Part 3: Final words on Dates and Sex from VH1's Tough Love host Steve Ward

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When Grandmothers Give Out Sex Advice

We all know old people can have their moments of comedy.. Look at the funny platform Ellen Degeneres' mother has on her daughters show, hilarious. But watch out Mrs. Degeneres because there is another funny mom in town!

It wasnt until I was browsing through one of my favorite websites, Nerve.com when I cam upon the headline  'Sex advice from my Grandmother'.

Eighty six year-old, Grandma Carmela, wanted to leave some words of wisdom to her then 20-year old granddaughter.. wisdom in sex that is.

After Grandma Carmela didnt get an answer regarding whether her granddaughter was still a virgin or not she decided to make sure, that no matter what, she dutifully passed down her years of sexpertise.

In a cursive, hand-written letter Grandma Carmela wrote down 16 nuggets of advice, ranging from advice on anal sex, soul-mates and clean penis'.

I'll share my top 3 with you..

1- "When dating a new man, do not feel obligated to have sex with him because he bought you dinner. To avoid this, pay for your own dinner. You are getting to know each other. You are not a homeless person who needs a meal." ( Amen sister! Rent might be expensive so choose a happy hour special instead!)
2- "Never marry someone and say "Well, I can always get a divorce if I'm not happy." When there are children, you are never divorced. The ex-husband will be in your life forever, so make sure you marry the right guy." ( Children or not, shouldnt you be 100% sure you want to marry someone before you say I do??)
3- Many men are pigs. They want sex every day! You are not obligated to say "yes" to please him if you do not feel up to it. You never do anything unless you want to. To pacify the pig, give him manual stimulation.
( isn't that called roll over and pretend your passed out?)

I can't take any more of the credit for these witty lines of advice that is due to Nerve.com and Grandma Carmela so click here to read the full list of 16 tips.. http://www.nerve.com/advice/sex-advice-from/sex-advice-from-my-grandmother

I have already put in my request for my own grandmother's sex/love advice letter.. to be continued if she ever writes one to me..