Why Women Don't like Sex as much with a Hook-up

Ahh College hookups.. A time to frolic from dorm room to dorm room without a care in the world. A place where you know you won't be caught and embarrassed in front of your parents or gossiped about as much as you would in the close quarters of high school hallways. 


For some incoming freshmen hookups might be their first set of sexual encounters.They don't say college is liberating for nothing. 


But one new study finds that such hookups don't actually make for great sexual experiences.


The Study "Accounting for Women's orgasm and sexual enjoyment in college hookups and relationships" published by the American Sociological Review wanted to explain why relationship sex is better for women (in terms of producing more orgasms and sexual pleasure). 


After reviewing  a large online survey of undergraduates at U.S colleges and Universities as well as in-depth  interviews they found that women have orgasms more often in relationships than in hookups. The reason behind it? 


The study contributes the better big O's from four things: 1- technically competent genital stimulation ( I mean if you don't know how to shift gears you shouldn't be driving a stick). 
2- partner-specific learning ( that's what happens when you don't know the name of the guy your hooking up with, you can't call out his name with proper directions and commands). 
3- commitment ( you'll most likely relax and enjoy yourself more knowing he won't hightail it out the door before you wake up in the morning). 
4- gender equality (aka sexual equality,  basically having some dignity and knowing you have the right to feel just as much sexual pleasure as your partner does).


And then they get into some unnerving double standards saying: 


"both men and women question women’s (but not men’s) entitlement to pleasure in hookups but believe strongly in women’s (as well as men’s) entitlement to pleasure in relationships"


Essentially saying that women don't think they have the right to enjoy themselves in a casual hookup BUT it's ok for men to enjoy themselves. This isn't breaking news folks, this goes back to the unspoken understanding that if a woman fools around with a guy shes not in a relationship with she's called a slut, but if a guy hooks-up with a girl he's not dating he's a hotshot and a hero.


Take the study for what it is but now you are scientifically informed that random hook-ups won't be as enjoyable for you as hooking up with your boyfriend or husband.. so maybe.. if you can (and I for one won't judge you if you can't) put the hookups on hold. 

Here is a funny video from College Humor on the aftermath of a hook up

Female Orgasms: One, Two or Several?

A new series of essays attempt to prove that vaginal and clitoral orgasms are actually a separate miracle.


Emmanuele Jannini, a professor at the University of Aquila in Italy who organized and worked on the essays, says they do in fact have evidence to prove there is a difference between the two main orgasms, clitoral and vaginally activated orgasms.


Jannini and six other scientists were basically trying to figure out if women can only get orgasms through clitoral/external orgasm...which they concluded is not the case based on the fact that there isn't enough scientific evidence to prove it. 


..AKA - This is good news ladies!


One scientist, Barry Komisaruk of Rutgers University tested brain waves to show which sensory brain areas activate in response to stimulation. He found that the brain areas for clitoral, cervical and vaginal stimulation overlap and cluster together.This proves that each kind of stimulation can produce an orgasm...because if they didn't and women were getting aroused let's say for example by vagina stimulation via clitoral stimulation their brain waves would land on the exact same area in the brain- Its a lot to swallow I know.. but it basically means he believes there are several ways for women to orgasm versus just one.


The Livescience.com article goes on to tackle and describe other aspects of their essays but I'll sum it up with a few of the more interesting tidbits.

• Research has suggested that the sensitive G-spot has a pain-blocking function during labor; when the baby's head is stretching out the vaginal walls. Her studies have found that when pressure is applied to the G-spot, a woman's pain threshold shoots up 47 percent (In other words, you can "scientifically" handle more pain when your delivering a child. - I'd like to see some more research on that one before I would fully believe it).

•  Women with spinal cord injury that cuts off all communication between the clitoris and the brain can still have orgasms with vaginal stimulation( Good for them!)

• Some lucky ladies can even "think" themselves to orgasm with no stimulation at all. There are also reports of women orgasming from tough abdominal workouts at the gym. ( I would call them blessed not lucky and see my First blog on orgasms at the gym: http://everythinggirlnews.blogspot.com/2012/04/for-my-first-post-i-wanted-to-find-fun.html)

• But one orgasm myth that all researchers agree should be kicked out of the bedroom is that the vagina is insensitive. ( Duh- ask a bunch of women and they probably could have figured that one out a lot faster).

• Jannini cautioned, women who don't orgasm vaginally should not feel inferior. "A woman should have an understanding — who is she, how is her body composed, what is the possibility of her body.." ( they'll probably feel more depressed than inferior).

If you want to read the whole write-up take a look:http://www.livescience.com/19579-vaginal-orgasm-debate.html

And if you want to pay to read the entire study you can get it here: http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1743-6109.2012.02694.x/abstract

Another Study on yet Another benefit to working out for women

For my first post I wanted to find a fun and lighthearted study that girls would enjoy. Maybe it's because I'm currently reading the 2nd book from the series Fifty Shades of Grey ( if haven't heard of it yet, #1 you should, #2 you should read it and #3 I'll have a separate post on the book later). Anyways, the book is basically a love story tangled around a life of BDSM. So while I've been reading the book and flipping through a lot and I repeat a lot of pages with detailed sex scenes and the main character, Ana,'s orgasms in them I thought about all those studies you've read or heard about saying how few women actually orgasm in bed ( according to Planned Parenthood stats 1 in 3 women have difficulty reaching orgasm during sex). That said this Ana character orgasms every time and goes 1 or 2 minutes after they've started! I know, I know, this is why it is a book and not real life. 

However when I passed the headline ' Working the Coregasm' on Salon.com I learned some interesting new facts that lead some experts to believe that working out can lead to self gratifying orgasms. Some women have said it comes when they are either doing sit-ups or climbing rope.. Here is the abstract to the study:

Orgasm is typically considered to be a sexual experience. However, orgasms occurring during physical exercise have been occasionally documented.

 The primary objective of the current study was to understand more about women's experience with exercise-induced orgasm (EIO) including the types of exercise that women have noted have led to EIO and associations with self-reported sexual experiences. A secondary purpose was to understand and assess women's experiences of exercise-induced sexual pleasure (EISP) among a convenience sample of women who had never experienced EIO but who had experienced sexual pleasure during exercise. 

A total of 530 women completed a cross-sectional, anonymous, Internet-based survey. The average age of first EIO was 18.9 years old. Among the most common exercises reported to induce orgasm were abdominal exercises, climbing and lifting weights. Women reporting EISP, but not orgasm, frequently identified biking/spinning, abdominal exercise and lifting weights as associated with their experiences. 

Self-consciousness during exercise was commonly reported by women in the EIO group. However, sexual thoughts or fantasy related to EIO were only rarely reported. Findings challenge the idea that women's orgasm is an intrinsically sexual experience. Implications related to the scientific understanding of orgasm processes and clinical recommendations are discussed. 

http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/14681994.2011.647902

So the next time you are dragging your feet to the gym or counting the excuses on your hand not to go.. remember it could be let's just say.. a good time.. Have you ever had or felt an orgasm coming on at the gym?.. My thoughts.. Try the pull-up bar next time your at the gym...