Valentine's Day..And All The Silly Survey's & Stats

Who actually reads all those sappy Valentine's Day stories and studies that take over the internet the week before February 14th? Sure some of the numbers are interesting but all the love me/ love me not crap in between is nauseating. So here are some of the more interesting stats for the single and taken gals and guys ( this way you don't have to read the unwanted love news or bachelor/ bachelorette stats...

For the Singles:

• 40% of people say going out with friends is the best break-up remedy (Bing survey)

• A surprising 1 in 10 people admit to having broken up with someone on Valentine’s Day. (Bing survey)

• SeekingArrangement.com, revealed that on average a man needs to shell out $218 to “get lucky” on Valentine’s Day. The study also revealed on average how much married, single, and committed men spend during this holiday: Single: $257: Dinner or Activity Married:$203: Presents, Committed a Relationship: $180:Presents

• Does a date’s height, debt and virginity really matter? 71% of women are not likely to date someone shorter than themselves; 42% of singles would not date a virgin (33% of men and 51% of women); and 65% of singles would not date someone with considerable credit card debt (>$5K). (Match.com survey)

• Connecting online ranks #1 amongst places where singles meet. nearly 1/3 of singles (27.5%) reported that they have dated someone whom they met online. In addition, 20% of singles met their most recent first date online vs. 7% who met at a bar. (Match.com survey)

" If you want new results in love, you have to do things - and date - differently"- Andrea Syrtash, author of Cheat On Your Husband (With Your Husband)



For the Attached:

• Six million people are planning or expecting a marriage proposal for Valentine's Day, up from 4 million in 2012. ( American Express Spending and Saving Tracker consumer report)

• Romantic love survives long-term. Over 80% of married men and women would marry the same person again, while 76% married men and 73% women are still very much in love with their current spouse:: 8-10 on a scale of 10 being “deeply in love”. ( Match.com)

• Nearly two-thirds of couples surveyed say a weekend getaway is more likely to spark romance in their relationship than a gift. (U.S. Travel Association)

• 28% of the couples say their sex life actually improved after traveling together. Of those couples, 40% say the improvement was permanent. (U.S. Travel Association)

"For women, manage expectations so there's no disappointment. Men aren't mind readers. If he gets the day wrong- move on. It doesn't have to be a big deal unless you make it one. If Valentine’s Day is too inconvenient or falls on a busy day, celebrate on day before or day after. Don’t put too much pressure on celebrating the actual day".  - Relationship guru and SiriusXM host Jenny Hutt

The Title Game: Use Your Words Wisely

Guys are never easy to read, so if you have a burning question you've been dying to ask but are too afraid to, what do you do? 


In continuing with the relationship title topic.. I asked a group of guys to explain what a girl should and should not say when you broach the question of your relationship status. 


If you HAD to have the conversation with a girl you DID like and DIDN’T want to lose, What is the best way she could bring up the “what are we/ title conversation”?


ANSWER: I think people stray away from honesty too often and try to hide stuff. Guys and girls both. If you’re that serious about someone you shouldn’t be afraid to be upfront with what you're doing/thinking.


ANSWER: No reason for convo, the girl will know when she hits gf status.


ANSWER: Trick question there is no Best way. But IF it HAD to be done, don't do it in front of the guys friends or family. You will get a half-ass answer, awkward silence from those in the audience, a pissed off guy when you are finally alone, and a delayed engagement ring.


ANSWER: If you are really into a girl and she is really into you, you normally don’t have to have that discussion its just known and felt. It will come up casually.


ANSWER: She should just straight out ask.  If I liked her enough to not want to lose her, I'd rather she just be honest instead of playing games. 



 What’s the worst thing a girl could say when trying to figure out if they are more to you than just a fling or someone you casually care about?

ANSWER: If you find out the answer to this let me know. I’m always the one trying to make the step from casual to serious too fast. 

ANSWER: Saying "I'm pregnant". Never never cool. Never. 

ANSWER: Asking about other girls I hang out with.

ANSWER: Any type of ultimatum or ordering in general.

ANSWER: If after one sleepover she tells you she thought about her husband leaving to go to work and she is referring to you. THAT IS A DEAL BREAKER… also talk about how you are such a great couple in front of your friends when you have hung out just a few times. Unlike girls, guy’s don’t like to talk about their feelings with other dudes, so if you assume something in front of his friends you might as well get your things because you are gone.